This is me at Duke Gardens March 19, 2024- totally unaware that in April I'd be diagnosed with ADHD, and then in October I'd be diagnosed with autism. 

What I did know that day was that I had just gone through what my therapist thought was a bout of depression and spring was making me feel both hopeful and annoyed. 

Here's a bit about me:

🍓I'm 53 years old. I'm a queer, able bodied late-diagnosed AuDHD human, and I live in Durham, NC, USA. I have 2 teenagers (both neurodivergent, one trans), and 2 cats. I've been married for 20 years, my husband and I have lived separately since 2020.(I moved out 2 weeks before the pandemic started!)

🥰I've been sober and in recovery since December 7, 2012. I put together my own unconventional recovery. I write a blog about it called Soberbia.(find older posts here) Sobriety is the backbone of my life. 

📚I love reading, learning, writing, running in the woods, and when someone else makes the food. Cloudy dreary days are my favorite. (Sunny days are so pushy! lol) I love talking to other humans about human behavior, and learning about people and what their lives and experience of life is like for them.

🤓I have never had a 9-5 job, and I don't have a degree. I'm fortunate to have a unique perspective when it comes to questioning long-standing corporate structures and deeply rooted social constructs. I did my coach training with IPEC and got my certification in 2017; I have a PCC from the ICF if you're into letters for things like that. :)

🦄I have felt different from other people all my life, and up until this year I didn't understand why, so I just kept trying harder. I didn't get why what was important to other people wasn't important to me, why I couldn't just be 'normal'. Discovering my AuDHD gave me the room I needed to stop trying so hard to fit in. Now I'm learning to be myself.

And...Trying harder was never going to work for me because I was trying harder in a system that wasn't made with me in mind!  My 7 years of coaching experience, almost 12 years of sobriety and recovery, 20 years of parenting, lifetime of learning, and my neurodivergent experience provides an uncommon and fresh perspective. I'm in it with you, and I’m doing my own work too. I read, learn, and study all the time so I can share it with other people- like you 😊.